You don’t want to!
There, that’s it..... simple really, isn’t it?
Or is it?
I think we all know it’s not that simple, but when all is said and done the real reason you’re struggling to lose weight is because in some way, more often than not, subconsciously you don’t want to change. For whatever reason, you don’t want go back to being the person you used to be when you were a size 10 ( or whatever your ideal size is) there’s some other self sabotaging fear coming into play stopping you from achieving your weight loss goals. (Or any goals in fact)
Right now you feel safe and so your survival instincts are acting as your weight thermostat to keep you right where you are. Your subconscious believes you want to stay in your current state because subconsciously you have made yourself be this way and so your subconscious wants to keep you this way because thats where it believes you want to be.
I’ll use myself as an example....
I’m currently 5+ stone overweight. Yes me, a trained fitness instructor qualified in nutrition and physical therapy and I’m overweight! Since having my boys ( who are now 6&8) I’ve steadily gained weight ( I’ll explain the reasons for this soon)
But when I found myself in a position to be able to lose weight I just couldn’t stick to anything, I rebelled against any change to my diet and lifestyle and continued to gain weight despite all my knowledge and experience. (I used to teach back to back spin classes and spend my days writing fitness programmes for clients)
I decided to practice what I preach and take a long hard look at myself.
How was my diet so much better now than when I was a size 10 but yet I’m sitting here a size 18??? I knew I needed to ask myself some questions to dig deep into my subconscious for the answers.
I realised that yes, I used to be a size 10 but back then I used to think I was fat ( I know you can all relate to that!) and I had really low self esteem. I wouldn’t let my boyfriend see me put makeup on because I thought he’d think I was ugly if I had to put makeup on and I suppose in general, I just didn’t know who I was on the inside.
Despite this I was also a HUGE flirt and loved the attention of men. I had very few girl friends but the ones I did have would be out in the clubs with me Thursday through to Sunday seeing who could “pull” the most of men. 🤦🏻♀️
It’s not surprising I seeked the validation of myself from others, specifically men, because I didn’t have the understanding and confidence in myself that I now have to not need it. I simply didn’t know who I was then and needed others to show me (so I thought)
And so, as much as I’d love to be a physical size 10 now, I don’t want to be the mental and emotional person I was when I was that size. I have the subconscious fear that if I go back to being a size 10 I will go back to being that person I was back then. As much as my conscious mind knows that’s not going to happen, my subconscious fears are sabotaging my conscious efforts to lose weight.
My subconscious fears don’t want me to attract the attention of men as I’m now a mother and wife. My fears also tell me that if I were to lose the weight I would also lose my much valued girlfriends. You see my subconscious is just trying to protect me and maintain my status quo.
Asking myself these questions, it’s quite clear why I’m not a size 10. Despite all my training and experience, my subconscious mind sabotages all my efforts to protect me from becoming the person I don’t really want to be. It associates the size I was with the experiences I had and the person I was at that body size. Despite having a great time in my 20’s it’s not the lifestyle I want for myself now.
Can you see now why you might be struggling to lose weight or maintain your weight loss?
Ask yourself what size / weight you would like to be.....
Now consider what was happening in your life when you were last that size or weight.......
Why might you not want to go back to being like that?
What part of yourself or your lifestyle back then does not fit into your life now?
Once you know your limiting beliefs relating to weight loss and size, we can get to work removing these blocks and creating new beliefs about our ideal size and weight.
Want to change your weight or size for good?
Ask yourself the questions in the post above and then contact me to learn how to create new beliefs for long lasting change
I’m currently implementing a 6 wk weight loss programme that I’ve devised to nourish my mind and body whilst clearing my negative beliefs. Check back in 6 weeks to see how I did...... the plan is to nourish the 7 areas of my being to create balance and reset my systems therefor creating natural sustainable weight loss without faddish diets and unrealistic exercise (despite my fitness training, I’m far from a fanatic when it comes to exercise. I’d much rather opt for functional exercises and walking)